But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
—1 Corinthians 11:3
For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
In line with my last post, I now wish to shift the focus to men. I’m focusing on something systemic among evangelical men that has rendered many of us useless in fulfilling our calling as Christian men.
The husband is the head of the wife, that is, he is to lead, nourish and love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). Furthermore, the church is ordered after the home in that only men are to be elders and women are not to teach men.
“Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence.”
—1 Timothy 2:11&12
So here is the rub…Evangelical men, on the whole, are wimps and wimps make poor leaders. But hey!…I get it. Every time men try to put their heads out there and lead, it gets whacked off. Too many evangelical women with strong Feminist leanings lament the lack of strong men while living out a worldview that emasculates men. But gentlemen, where is your resilience?
It’s very telling that when a man does actually speak out against feminism, most of the responses from other evangelical men are nothing more than virtue signaling for Feminism. Too many men are infected with Pansyism. The guys have joined the girls, but fellas, the dress doesn’t fit nor flatter you.
Feminism is not really about equality (that’s a ruse), it’s about smashing patriarchy.
Feminism has ravaged the church and the best front we have managed to muster is the redefinition of terms like “headship” and “submission”. Oh yes, we say we mean these things but somehow “submission” has come to mean the husband should merely lead the discussion but the wife has veto power over any decision.
Feminism lives out in the church in various ways. It’s simply stunning how many women (and men TBH) go to the mat making arguments that are right out of the Feminist playbook and are deeply offended when we call them out as Feminists. HOW DARE YOU CALL ME A DUCK!!! *quack!, quack!, quack!*
What all of this is creating is the passive man. Men that are not fulfilling their role as heads but look more like wrists…limp ones. Men who have given up on even trying. What’s the use? We’ve taken our ball and gone home (the man cave). We are wimps and losers…bullied into submission by proponents of a Satanic worldview. As men, we have become worthless…but it doesn’t have to be this way.
Now in conclusion let me point you in the right direction. If you think what I am saying is men need to go home and put their boot down on their wife’s neck or drop “patriarchal nukes” in the church, slow down and breathe.
We need to recognize that our problem is not merely that we have abdicated and ceased to lead. It’s far more serious than that. Our problem is we are failing to love our wives as Christ loved the church, to lay our lives down for her (2 Peter 5:25). Our problem is we have allowed the cancer of Feminism to permeate the church…BECAUSE WE DON’T LOVE OUR SISTERS IN CHRIST AS WE OUGHT.
Our failure as men is cowardice, selfishness, and the failure to love. We must begin with repentance.