“I mean come on, that chick is smokin! How could I not be attracted to her?”, I tell my wife again as she slaps me on the shoulder.
“What’s the problem? God made me to be attracted to women!”
The above is a fictional conversation. It doesn’t take much for the reader to realize this would be a violation of the Seventh Commandment, for Jesus was very clear when he taught…
Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: but I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
When I am attracted to women who are not my wife (and hey, it happens because I’m a sinner), I am to recognize it as sin (or at the very least, a temptation to sin) and mortify it. Pretty basic right?
Well not in this day and age. Now we have all of this talk about same-sex attraction being fine as long as people do not act on said attraction. I’m old enough to have watched the dialog shift in this direction since my childhood in the 70s and 80s. We used to speak clearly to the fact that homosexual desires are sinful but somewhere along the way we have lost our clarity.
This may seem like a small concession, but the implications are massive and this change in thought is a major victory for the kingdom of darkness. What we have done in trying to please the world on this point is downplay the seriousness of this sin. By saying this sinful desire is not a sin at all, we have invited Satan up onto a toehold of our own making.
Should we then excommunicate church members and defrock ministers who confess same sex attractions? This is what the mind-sapped, media-brainwashed, evangellyfish are already thinking that I am saying. To those types, it doesn’t matter what I say, you will distort my meaning into things I am not saying no matter what I say. Just look at the comments section on this post.
No, we should begin in the same place we began—with my lust for women who are not my wife. That is, confess it as sin and pray for grace that such sins be mortified every time they raise their ugly heads. Someone who struggles with the sin of same sex attraction CAN BE a Christian and such men CAN EVEN be ministers, but I fail to see how it is consistent with Christianity to say these desires are not sinful and do not require mortification. They are no longer who we are!
Finally, I must deal with the objection that a temptation itself is not a sin, for even Jesus experienced temptation and was without sin (Hebrews 4:15). The question is, when does a “desire” become sin? This is a valid question. For the sake of brevity, I will provide a short answer to this question as it relates to the matter at hand.
When someone is so given to their same sex-attractions that they identify as “same-sex attracted”, they have so crossed the line as to have left it several states back. My friend, if that is how you identify yourself, you need to repent of such thinking and speaking. If you are in Christ, you are now a new creation.
Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a newcreature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
—2 Corinthians 5:17
Could you imagine if I identified myself as a man who desires women who aren’t my wife? Yes, I may struggle with that sin, but it is not to define who I am in Christ and I should never make that a defining point of who I am. Again, I should mortify it.
To the Christian suffering under the homosexual delusion, your sinful, “same-sex attractions” are no longer that which define you any more then my sinful “different-sex attractions” for other women who are not my wife to define me.
For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I. If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that it is good. Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.